I’ve been wanting to do this topic for a while but… I just kept forgetting.
This is a topic that comes up on a daily basis for all of us in one way or another but since this is my blog I can only bitch about what happens in my world. It seems now a days that you can’t do anything really without getting some comment from outsiders or “HATERS” as we all like to call them.
When I was fat I was made fun of every single day. From the time I was in first grade until I started losing weight at 21 years old I heard at LEAST one comment a day about my weight.
When I decided that I wanted to be an actress I heard comments and hater talk about how I would never make it, I was too fat, I wasn’t talented enough and I didn’t have what it takes.
When I told the world that I would lose the excess weight I was told that it would never happen, that I would just gain all the weight back and that losing weight was just too hard and I was destined to be big my whole life.
Finally, starting last year until currently I receive negative comments about my decision to train and compete in Women’s Physique.
It is none of my business where the negativity comes from within these individuals. Actually, I don’t care. If we are being totally honest I stopped caring about negativity a LONG time ago because it is just a waste of my concern and I have far better things to worry about than someone else’s negativity. I feel bad for those who are negative towards others and waste their own breath putting others dreams and goals down because it’s just sad.
Many of the negative comments I receive to this day are from those who just don’t understand my goals and what I am doing. Bodybuilding has built a reputation of being an industry filled with roided out juice heads who tan too much and say “BRO” all the time while checking themselves out too much in the mirror. Personally, I blame “Jersey Shore”. In reality, it is so much more than what people assume it to be. People making comments about things they don’t understand is nothing new to me. Let’s be honest…when most people think of those who are morbidly obese they assume that the individual is eating donuts directly off of their stomach with a McDonalds chaser in front of the television 12 times a day.
I have discovered that the negative comments (in most cases) don’t truly come from a place of hatred for the individual or wanting to cause hurt to that person. In SOME cases it is and I have been on the receiving end of those type of people (P.S. if you have EVER in your life made fun of someone to cause harm to that person you should be ashamed of yourself. Take time to apologize to that person NOW. Thanks to the great world of Facebook we can all stalk each other equally and I GUARANTEE you… you may have forgotten what you called that person but they are pained by that experience and those words every single day.)
ANYWAY! Most people make negative comments and start right in with the criticism because they just don’t understand. Not only that but something that is out of the “NORM” is scary for most people and uncomfortable. The general public don’t do well in uncomfortable situations.
While I am very different from most in the sense that instead of internalizing negative comments and criticism which I used to do and it was very difficult to get over. I use the negativity, harness it and feed my fire inside to succeed and push myself. Don’t be afraid to be different, try something new and follow your dreams exactly how you want to follow them. Often times the things people give shit to others about are the things they REALLY give themselves shit for…. get it? THAT’S why it even comes up… it’s on their mind.
YOU are the one following your goals
YOU are the one changing your life
YOU are the one busting your ass everyday
THEY are not…and that bothers them
Why not try to raise the weak by breaking the mighty? *we will just go ahead and let the haters think that that actually works*
No matter what ANYONE says to me, what anyone thinks of me or feels about me I am going to do exactly what I want to do because you know what? I CAN! I have the confidence in myself, in my abilities and in my determination to get myself anywhere I want to go. I don’t need approval, acceptance or even positivity from the outside because it all comes from me so If you’re not with me then you’re just in my way so I suggest you move over to avoid any injury.